Tuesday, 8 September 2015

Gotta sing.....Gotta Dance.....

I miss singing. My heart misses it. Not just belting along to the radio or pottering around the house with the ditty “If I were a flip flop where would I beeeeeeee?” (Oh c’mon we all do a little inner monologue singing from time to time) but performance singing with an ensemble, the lights, the orchestra and a heart-stopping libretto written by a genius.

Since focusing on becoming a secure grown-up person my bank balance may have stabilised but my soul has depleted somewhat. Now don’t fret folks, I’m not miserable. Not at all. I am happily surrounded by things that make my heart swell; my niece and nephew, a new found obsession with yoga, a bright future with my man but.......... that part of me,the girl who sang along with Elaine Paige to “Nobody’s Side” on cassette in her first car has been resurfacing. I’ve had to bury her away in order to get on with things but I’m realising that you can’t keep parts of your personality hidden away for long because they’ll become malnourished little shadows of themselves. Think Cheryl Vander-whatshernewname and those recent tabloid pictures; my inner performer is skin and bones in a Prada jumpsuit.


My theory is that we all nurture little facets of our personality inside of ourselves that pop out and take the lead at various times;

  • Inner child – she still wants to be adored, has the occasional tantrum and eats too many sweets,
  • Maternal lioness – she is selfless, needs to protect and care, dotes on her nephew and niece and is aware of her ticking body clock,
  • Career woman – she is independent, sharp and driven, you don’t mess with her in an email row
  • Reckless gal – she buys random clothes online, giggles like mad with her girlfriends and drinks tequila despite her vow never to do so again in Magaluf circa 1996,
  • Spiritual yogi – she explores her connection with the universe, has a meditation app and eats Kale on purpose


At different stages of your life, who am I kidding, at different stages of my day I can be led by any one of these versions of me. But the whole array fit together and make up who you are. Without the whole mix, you aren’t being true to yourself and I’m realising that without my performer-self, (“Dani Star” as I christened her 29 years ago. Don’t worry it makes me shudder too!) I feel unbalanced.

I think it’s part of the grieving process to shut things away; I couldn’t set up a business whilst crying into my Mamma Mia show shoes, but maybe now is the time to....... quote an old cliché. Sometimes you just need old cliché, (just look at your Facebook feed for evidence of this trend!)  I need to face the music and dance.
You know this feeling? That's what I want back


So I’ve got a plan folks, watch this space........

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